DD13 is driving us up the wall! We really need help and don't know where to turn

[Helphelphelp1234567899]

Hi everyone

My DD13 has, in the last few months, been an absolute nightmare with her behaviour, defiance and attitude. We are at our wits end. I have been in school to see various teachers to no avail. She is constantly late to school, resulting in her attendance becoming low, she is defiant and won't do as she is told, to the point where i have had to pick her up from school. We have even thought of changing schools, anything to get her back to "normal" She has been to CAMSH which she says didn't help her. We don't know where to turn to for help, we are really struggling at the moment and can't continue like this. I thought maybe you guys would have some advice for us. Thanks in advance from a very drained teenage parent.

[millimat]

I've no help sorry, but didn't want to leave you with no responses. Hopefully this will bump it up and sometime with valuable advice will be along soon.

[Isadora2007]

Seems simple but have you read books like how to talk so teens will listen, how to listen so teens will talk!?
Or simple things like connect before correct- so make sure your connections with her are good and positive before trying to discipline or even discuss issues. Love bombing? She isn’t living in a vacuum either- so what else has been happening in her or your life? Especially from age 7/8 onward.

[Breathlessness]

To get more of an idea about your DD, has she always been like this at school? Is this something that has escalated or appears to have come from nowhere? How is she at home? Have there been changes in her home life or in her school friendships recently?

[HollowTalk]

That sounds really tough. Do you think it's normal teenage behaviour (horrible as that is) or do you think something else is going on?

When did she start her periods? Have you noticed a link between her behaviour and the week before her period starts?