I'm looking after my 14 year old cousin since his mum passed last year. He's had a traumatic time until he moved in with me (I'm 28). Helped his mum raise him since he was a baby.
He's always been a good boy (he'd make me tea without asking, he'd want to help around the house and was well mannered) until recently he's started acting up. He's bunked off school once, he's been climbing over school fences and being rude to teachers and today he missed maths at school.
He's started to be rude to be and treats me with no regard and that when I tell him off I'm over reacting. If I take his phone off him for rude behaviour then I'm being extreme. He threatens he won't go to school if I don't give his phone back. If I say I don't want to talk to him, he'll say "how old are you? You're behaving like a 5 year old".
I would do anything for him, I'd move mountains for him, I put him over me all the time. I always give in to him but now I'm struggling. I've had to raise my voice on him but I don't like doing that.
He just doesn't listens to me anymore. I don't want him to make me tea, I don't need him to do the house work, I can do my self but I need him to respect everyone around him, esp those who care so dearly for him and don't want to see him ruin his life.
I've tried to get him to go counselling, maybe there are unresolved issues from his mother's death but he doesn't want to go and I can't force him. We use to be good friends and now it feels like I am his worst enemy. I've been missing his mum so much now. I don't know what to do
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Guardian786 · 14/12/2018 16:03
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