NEED ADVICE ABOUT YOUNGER SISTER

[anonymous2408]

Hi, I've never used this website before but my family and I have reached a stage where we can no longer tolerate my younger sister, 13. Here's a brief overview of what I'm talking about:

My sister, let's call her L, joined the secondary school that myself and my other sister attended two years ago. Not long into year 7 she became involved with a clique of bitchy girls who used to walk around like they owned the place, tormenting others in their year group and even older students. She started going out with these girls at weekends and meeting their friends who were even dodgier than they are. By the end of year 7, it had gotten to the stage where the head thought it would be in L's "best interests" to move schools because so many people hated her. She moved to a second school and the exact same thing happened there too, even worse in fact.

L was caught stealing from a shop in the high street with two of her friends, something she continually denied (even though CCTV proved it). No charges were pressed but my parents soon started noticing a lot of new makeup, clothes etc in her bedroom that they knew she'd stolen. Stealing had become a habit: she stole a £250 watch from her "best friend" which my mother and I had to scramble through the entire house to find (while she continued to deny the allegations made by the girl and her mother); she has repeatedly stolen money from my mother's purse, dad's wallet, even from my grandparents and from myself and will deny it until she is blue in the face even though we have been proven right every time. She has a disgusting, smug attitude every time we catch her in a lie, yet she could manipulate my parents into forgiving her every time.

She's now at an AP facility where she continues to act up and most recently has been suspended. Acts included bullying her teacher with a gang of friends, calling another teacher a c*, using profanity loudly and obnoxiously to everyone, smoking weed before/after school, performing sexual acts on a number of older boys, lying compulsively about where she's going/what she did at school etc, damaging and defacing school property to the point where my parents have been charged for the repairs, continuing to steal money and possessions from immediate family, and tormenting children from her previous school after being involved in a major fight with them, even though authorities are now involved.

My parents and all of our family are now at breaking point from her actions. I live away from home but am constantly on the phone hearing about what she's done every single day to hurt my family further. Nobody trusts her to be alone in a room in the house, we have all had to buy locks for our bedrooms and use them every time we leave them, even for a few minutes.

I am writing as a desperate plea for advice for my family as I don't know how much longer they can tolerate this. My father suggested calling social services but, despite everything, my mum is still finding that too hard to come to terms with. Thank you and sorry for the length of this post!

[MemoryOfSleep]

Hmm. I think the catalyst for this is unlikely to be making the wrong group of friends. The sex acts on older boys in particular make me wonder if she's been assaulted or suffered some other trauma, so she's acting out to regain a bit of control and maybe as a cry for help? I think social services are the right call. She needs to get some help as early as possible.

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

Has she ever been assessed for ASD or ADHD?