I've had a call from school today to say they're having difficulty dealing with DS. He always struggles at this point in the school year; I think it's because it's a new school year and it takes him a while to settle into changes of staff etc. He's been rude and aggressive, isn't handing in work etc. and they feel he would benefit from some professional help.
I have wanted DS to get some help for years. I took him to see someone for a taster session when he was 10 but he didn't like the counsellor and told her he was perfectly fine and that I was the one who needed therapy which she took very seriously. I've said it can take time to find the right person to talk to so it's worth trying again but he remembers this session very clearly and flatly refuses to consider seeing someone different.
He won't see the school counsellor because he doesn't want to see a counsellor and because everyone at school would know (he says everyone knows who's having counselling).
I don't know what to do with him. He can be absolutely lovely but he can also be thoroughly vile. He says the worst things he can possibly think of to say to people and really upsets them and yet he's very sensitive to the slightest thing that is said to him. He can also be very kind and loyal, it depends what mood he's in. It's impossible to actually talk to him about his behaviour or to find out what's really going on his head; he just walks out of the room and refuses to talk.
Yesterday morning he was really awful to me and it affected my whole day but when I picked him up from school he was quite happy and seemed to have forgotten anything had happened. After tea I attempted talking to him by saying I'd felt terrible all day because of the way he'd behaved that morning he just walked out of the room and went to bed, I didn't see him again until the morning. If I'd tried to persist he would have got aggressive and I would have got nowhere. He's impossible to reason with.
He'll be 18 in a few weeks time. I'm really worried about how he'll cope next year when he's supposed to be off to university, I just can't see him managing.
I suspect he's got Aspergers, he even says this himself. I think he gets depressed too. However, if he won't get help from anyone what can I do?
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How to persuade DS (17) to see a counsellor
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WornOutAndUseless · 17/10/2018 11:14
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