Hi,
I have been separated from my Ex since my boys were 2 1/2 (they are now 13). The boys have lived with me the whole time since. When the boys were 8 my ex had a new baby with his new wife and shortly after that I received a letter from him to advise that he was no longer having contact with the boys.
I managed to convince him to see them and for the next 3/4 years he would then see them one Saturday a month for a few hours. In the last year he started to have them overnight on those Saturdays.
We get on ok - times have been very tough in the past but we have managed to put differences aside and move on for the boys sake.
Times have been strained recently with the boys. I put this down to their hormones as the attitudes and answering back have been increasing thick and fast. This has been incredibly hurtful because they would never dare speak to their dad in the same way. However, again, I thought this was just the norm that I would get thr brunt of everything because they lived with me.
This morning they told me that they had been speaking to their dad and they have decided that they are going to move in with him to 'experience what it would be like'. My heart is breaking - I feel humiliated and I don't know what to do. I know I can't stop them but it is making me feel so incredibly hurt and at the same time so angry that I have given them everything over the years and now get this. Their dad is financially wealthy and I have struggled over the years but they have never gone without.
I am expecting a call from their dad this week to talk about it but I know I am just going to cry and I don't want to on the phone to him.
Financially I can't afford to pay him maintenance either as I have debts I am trying to pay off.
Has anyone been through this and any advice would be greatly appreciated? x
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acls · 06/08/2018 11:04
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