My dd has been suffering with panic attacks and low moods for the last 2 years. She has been referred to local kids counselling service but came off their records as she stopped answering their phonecalls. Ive tried to ask her to go back on the waiting list but her perception is sje is doomed anyhow. Her esteem has got worse and worse ...she says she is rubbish and a dissapointment. Even though we tell her often how proud we are of her...apparently we have to say that as her parents. She complained that we dont say stuff about her hobby /talent on social media and it makes her feel worthless...yet not a week ago i posted on facebook abput how proud of her we were for winning a special prize for her hobby. Next thing she says she is a dissapointment to the rest of the family and none of my side like her...yet ive seen posts on instagram lauding her skills in her hobbies from her favourite Aunt. She has broken up with her boyfriend lately and says that she 'hates' being single its no fun, she needs someone to kiss and be in a relationship with. She goes to a great school but says she cant break into friendship groups in the same breath theey are all irritating and she doesnt want to invite people round. Shr is rubbish at her gcse subjects etc but her results are not the worst ...she complains constantly abput how boring school is and how it is 'shit' but wont say why. If asked to revise or do homework she spends more time moaning about having to do it than doing it. She does have friends just not particularly close to them. She resents people at school for things they said to her in year 7 ...she is now year 9 . All in all she is an extremely negative person and she wont do counselling..i have bought her books , mindfullness magazines...tried to encourage exercise and healthy eating ...tried to push counselling ...encouraged hr to join a group outside of school...but noone understands no one is like her she says she feels shit all the time. I really dont know what to do..am at the end of my tether. Her negativity is affecting the household dh is washing his hands of it and doesnt want to know or deal with it. I am so scared this low self esteem will become a picture for the rest of her life. Im trying to encourage her to be positive, friendly and amenable but it almost feels like she would rather choose to be miserable .........any ideas please just help !
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Smellylittleorange · 19/06/2018 23:24
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