Abusive relationship

[Andi2001]

My Daughter 19 recently left home to live with her boyfriend (I did not approve) she has since dropped out of uni and got a full time job. When we did speak she told me he had made her leave 3 part time jobs as he didn't like her working with other boys. She used to be so popular now has no contact with friends as they are not allowed to her house. She says this is not abuse on his part as she doesn't recognise the controlling behaviour. I have spoke to her friend and they have said they no longer see her as they are not 'georgie approved'. I did about 2 months ago get her away from the house as he came in drunk and threw all her things out he smashed house up and she was injured. The police just treated it as a domestic. I brought her home and the next morning she had gone back before I woke. She is now not allowed to see me or her family and has changed her number. I think this is also his doing. I'm not sure what else I can do ..........

[Zebrasmummy]

Wish I had an answer that I was sure would sort this out. Sounds awful - trust your instincts though . . . definitely sounds controlling and abusive. Outrageous that the police had that attitude. You could try calling local domestic abuse services for some advice and keep lines of communication open as much as you can in a way that isn't going to increase risk. Good luck to you both.

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

That must be so awful, I really feel for you. Have you got any way of getting in touch with her?