...when it's the other party, not one's own teenager, who tells you by text that they've broken up, or rather that your your son/daughter has done the breaking up?
I'm talking about seventeen year olds, both with some mental health issues. The Other Party (TOP) has texted me before when there were crises. I'm presuming My Offspring (MO) does not want to be forthcoming with info, which is their right, and I'm fine with that. What I really want to know is should I respond to TOP, just to wish them well in the future but making no comment about the relationship or about whether MO has told me anything? Or should I not be drawn in at all?
My daughter had her boyfriend pretty much living with us for about 6 months. When she broke it off she buggered off away to a friends and left us to deal with the emotional wreck that was TOP while he sobbed on my shoulder in between putting his clothes in a bag.
It was one of the most excruciating times in my life.