This isn't a desperate situation. It isn't life or death. It is, however, causing me anxiety and I would really appreciate hearing your thoughts.
Our 17 year old dd is a bright girl who, we think, is unlikely to achieve her wish to attend university next year. She does very little studying at home - constantly on her phone / social media - and spends her free periods at college socialising. She attends all her lessons and does most of the homework but is not currently achieving her (realistic) predicted grades and show little motivation to study independently.
She says that I nag her to work - she's probably right, although I would call it 'trying to support her'! She says that she feels depressed but won't see the college counsellor or the GP. Her bedroom was an absolute tip which I know was upsetting her so I spent 2 days tidying and sorting it, in an attempt to help her emotionally but it's already messy again ..........
I know this isn't necessarily end-of-the-world stuff but I don't know what to do to help her without pressurising her. She has her A level mocks in 3 weeks and just seems to expect to sit them without actually doing any revision. She will probably then blame us for her poor results for making her 'feel bad'.
Do we just button our lips and let her get on with it?
Do we try to continue down the path of attempting to discuss our worries?
Please advise.
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doglover · 14/11/2017 20:27
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