Last night I had the most heart wrenching talk with my daughter, (DD12). She is year 8 seniors, and whilst year 7 was rocky things seemed to have stabilized and calmed going into year 8. I was hoping this summer that the girls in her form and friendship group had matured slightly over the summer break.
But, sadly not so my daughter opened up about her feelings of being on the outside of this group, that they do not include her in things from conversations which they walk off as they need to speak privately about something that does not concern her, to arranging meet ups and sleepovers and specifically keeping in from her. There is so much more to this than just those two points, but I'd need a PDF to state everything.
Now, I know this sounds minor, but these girls have been my daughter's friends since pre-school, they have grown through Primary into as she thought good friends, I now they are all maturing and settling into their own skins as they say, but I just feel helpless when I see that they are just using her this way.
My DD does loads of other outside activities and is a very confident girl most of the time. But, she struggles with why they exclude her so cruelly, that she says she feels lonely even when she is sitting with them as she knows they are only acting like friends.
I know what my daughter is looking for, that bond of friendship where, no matter what, that friend/mate stands by you through thick and thin, but sadly that characteristic in teenagers seems to be lacking in this group of girls.
So, this Mum is asking how do we all handle these situations? I know if I swoop in and try and sort out this issue, she'll be criticised by the group even more.. I have never felt so helpless in my life... So if any of your mothers are facing similar situations, your thoughts and words would truly help this devastated mother today..
Thank you all xxx
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MotherBear22 · 22/09/2017 09:17
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