I am doing the forbidden. Cross posting. There have been no replies on SN so I am
posting here. Tonight I barely recognise my child. They are so wound up and upset and angry. SN outsider would say that they were just a brat but ADHD meltdowns so often appear to be that. But it is so often and they are being so insolent and want me with them but not near them. Something has upset him (can't be bothered with the anonymity now) and the result is anger and baiting.
The SN have from infancy always meant that any negative emotion/physical feeling displays as anger. This could be something little -he got shouted at or didn't understand a subject at school, it could be something big - friendship problems, in trouble. But to get to the bottom of it takes ages. And there is always destructive meltdowns. I feel so worn out. I can't tell if this is just puberty ora bigger problem. His medication isn't effective enough and that is s big problem.
I think this is my new home. Hello. Below shows how I feel tonight.
Be gentle, I can't take another kicking at the moment.
It is driving me to the edge. There is so much anger and resentment. I thought Kevin and Perry were funny way back when. Now they are my life with a big dose of fuck you anger coming from my child.
They takes meds which are mildly useful and CAMHS have nothing else to offer. I cope and cope and cope but I feel like a sponge that can't absorb anymore. The battles are constant, swearing and blaming me for everything when I am a really proactive parent.
I have stopped liking my child and that feels terrible. I love them more than life but I don't enjoy being with them at the moment.
Just want sympathetic noises really.
Just to say - there is no support for parents round here. I did a PPP course when he was 7 yrs. I think I need a new one. The focus should be on non- confrontational problem solving/boundary setting.
Please make your best sympathetic noises and suggests.
Thank you.
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Youallpissmeoff · 22/02/2017 20:52
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