I'm looking for advice on how to respond to some bad behaviour that just happened. Feel hurt & out of my depth at the moment but would like to get it right. DD is 16 year 11. She's been a bit over reactive over the last week or so. I put it down to last week of half term, periods, realisation of gcse pressure & have taken a low key approach to things like being late in the morning then screaming at everyone else, hitting out briefly at her sister but not really making contact (younger sister can wind her up on purpose & be mean back). Generally they are both well behaved & caring. Tonight she had a go at her sister & then shouted at me, I can't even remember what about now. So I told her to leave the room. She wouldn't & carried on. So I took her phone which was probably the wrong thing to do but she wasn't listening. She got really confrontational asking for it back. I didn't feel able to back down so stuck to you have to stop shouting bullying if you want it back. And then when she went a bit further (face right in mine) I said right you've lost it for half an hour, go and calm down. She hit my forearm & kicked my shins 3 or 4 times with very good heavy clarks shoes which have cut & bruised my skin. To be fair I don't think she will have realised how much that hurt. Somewhere in all that, she left the room amid me saying she's lost the phone for the night. Now I don't know what to do. I'm not very good at conflict and tend to run discipline along the lines of people choosing to do what they're supposed to (which they mostly do). I assume I need to stick to the no phone tonight. I assume if I try to talk to her she'll get angry again. & usually she points out the (rare) times I have lost it and screamed at her so it's hard to keep the high moral ground.
So sorry this is so long, and thank you if you've got this far! Any helpful suggestions/thoughts on how to handle from here appreciated.
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How to respond to 16 year old DD sudden aggressive outburst
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catmum50 · 17/02/2017 16:53
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