Hi, I'm new to this site, I'm not a mum or expecting mum, but I need some advice on how to help my mum. I'm currently 19, female, and at university but still living at home because the university near me is good and it made sense to stay at home (though I do work and contribute to rent and bills and housework). Last year in the summer I went away for six weeks on a volunteer project. It was the first time I had been away from home and I had an amazing time, my mum however did not; people said it was like she was grieving because she had lost me, and I felt awful that she had felt so bad. I want to go away in the summer again but I'm worried she'll feel the same. I did talk to her every day when I was away but that didn't help.
She had me when she was 19 and so I understand she has devoted her whole adult life to me. I'm grateful for everything she has done but I can't stay at home forever. She has friends and a boyfriend (who doesn't live with us) but she doesn't really get out much with them, she spends a lot of time with me, when she's not working or doing her hobbies. We go for walks and watch tv over dinner and in the evenings, so I can see how when I left there was a big part of her life that was different, she didn't have my company most the evening any more. What could I suggest to her to help her to cope when I do want to go away and do my own thing for a bit? I have been trying to think of hobbies she can do to get out and meet people so her life isn't filled so much by me but she doesn't seem to want to put much effort into meeting more people, or maybe there's support groups for this kind of thing.
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How to help my mum cope when I go away for a few weeks?
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user1485797970 · 30/01/2017 18:15
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