Hello,
I have posted (too) many times before, so I will not repeat the entire context. However, my 17.8 year old son has been on delayed discharge from a CAMHS unit for five months. After a few incidents of challenging behaviour he was discharged on Monday. The Consultant at the CAMHS unit asked Children's Social Care to provide emergency accommodation for my son because he cannot return home due to Child Protection issues.
In fact reports from assessments by Forensic Psychology, the CAMHS unit, Children's Social Care (including details on both my sons' Child Protection Plans) and the police state that my son should not return home due to the risk of serious harm (emotional and sexual (sibling) abuse).
Yet, on Monday he was discharged. Social services told us there were no emergency placements available in the whole county and he returned home.
We have been given a package of support from outreach workers who take my son out so he spends as little time as possible with his brother and I supervise them constantly at home.
However, I know how quickly the situation can escalate and how I can find it impossible to manage (at 15 and 17 both boys are physically much stronger than me). I have been told to phone the police if I have any concerns.
Yet, the Child Protection Plans and the delayed discharge and months of work trying to find provision were designed to prevent this situation occurring. My son has been placed directly back into the context of 'abuse' with the perpetrator of the abuse (unfortunately my younger son), safeguarded by an adult who is assessed as being unable to manage their behaviour (and when it escalates, I cannot manage it!).
I am very angry, but I need to know how I can keep both boys safe in this context (my youngest is not a villain, but because I was unaware how the incidents occurred before, I have no guarantee that I can keep my eldest safe except by being in the boys' presence 24/7). My eldest sleeps downstairs on the sofa because both bedrooms are upstairs and in too close proximity for me to be aware of movements at night.
Social workers have encouraged me to make a complaint, which I have, and my son and his advocate have also submitted a complaint. Yet, the tension in the household is injurious to all members' mental health.
I suppose this is just another rant, but ranting helps me to get some of the bitterness out of my system.
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HarHer · 27/01/2017 09:44
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