My sister is 13 and has a very mild form of autism and anxiety which she takes medication for. She's currently spending the week at our grandparents because my mom is at breaking point with her..
She hardly ever goes to school or if she does she's late every morning, she has no friends and can only make friendships on social media which is worrying with the age she is at.. she fights with my mum and will leave bruises on her, she manipulates my mum and will not allow her to have a relationship, she will do anything to make the guy run away! My mom rarely leaves the house she is a full time carer for my sister and gave up her job which she loved. My mum has no social life whatsoever she isn't allowed to go out at night etc and my sister even sometimes won't let her come and see me.
I have a 1 year old son and live with my partner and have had my sister stay a couple of times and my sister always says she loves it - my household is a lot calmer and less chaotic as at my mums. My mum is amazing and I love her to bits but she's a completely different person nowadays, she's mentally and physically drained from arguing with my sister every day, it's all her life is about and it makes me so upset.
Every one possible has done everything they can, my mum has had counselling etc but my sister won't agree to any therapy at all, she's under camhs but again nothing seems to be helping if anything the situation is getting worse..
Me and other family members have tried talking to my mum about ways she can help herself but she is a natural hot head and will not listen to anyone. She is stuck in a rut and although I don't agree with how my sister has been treating her, I do believe there's an underlying issue that needs solving. Also it's got to the point where I can no longer leave my son with my mum as my sister kicks off and will shout around my boy so my mum is yet again suffering as she can't see her grandson as much as she would like (she adores him and is the best grandparent ever!)
There's a lot more to it obviously, but my question is should I allow my sister to come and live with me and I take care of her even if just for a few months to give my mum a break? She's talking about wanting my sister to go into care etc because she cannot cope anymore and I'm seriously worried for both of them. I feel like this is the only other option otherwise she will have to go into care...
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Should I let my sister live with me?
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olijdc · 12/01/2017 09:15
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