She is almost 17, has always been really easy to parent, dsis has made jokes over the years that at some point she'll turn into a "typical teen" as she has been so good all through puberty.
She has a boyfriend who she has been with on and off for a couple of years. He is awful now, very manipulative, controlling. She rarely sees her own friends as any spare time has to be with him. She is obsessed with him, he says he is depressed and has messaged her on several occasions when she wasn't planning to see him saying he would hurt himself. There are constant requests for him to sleepover.
She changed schools for 6th form at her request, she's very bright and wanted to go to university, the school she applied to is selective and stricter than her old school. When she is not rowing with the boyfriend she likes the school and is positive, when he is unsettled she decides she hates the school and has to move back to her old school where he is also doing a levels.
She is so lazy at the moment, won't do chores, just basic stuff like load the dishwasher or put some washing in the machine. Is rude and really negative about her younger step sister.
Yesterday I dropped her to a friends house, got a call from her at teatime demanding a lift. Picked her up and as soon as she got in the car she started to have a go at me, it was as if she had wound herself up before the conversation started.
The upshot was that she screamed at me all the way home, she's going to over schools whether I agree or not and at one point accused me of hitting her. ( I have never hit her or threatened to hit her)
Today she went to her boyfriends, she has told my partner she is not coming home. She has just rung to say she is now coming home but only to speak to me about my behaviour...
She physically can't move schools, the train fares will cost approx £200 per month and the old school doesn't offer the a levels she is doing. It also has Crap a level results which Is why she insisted on moving in the first place.
Please help me to ride this out. She is so irrational right now I don't actually know what to do.
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abitwrong123 · 05/01/2017 19:11
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