I knew this day would come but didn't expect it so early. DS 14 has his first girlfriend and is besotted. She seems like a nice girl. The problem is that DS spends so much time at her house and, to be honest, I miss him and am feeling quite jealous. He's constantly telling me how much better it is at GF's house, how much nicer, cooler her mum is. GF is one of five children with a single mum. I get the impression that mum is exhausted so there are few/no rules at the house. DS comes home saying what a great time he had at GF's but is grumpy and quite hurtful at home. We're not terribly strict and, ironically, things he likes at GF's house like playing music and games we stopped doing because DS complained about it so much!
We've had some very honest conversations about sex and I've put condoms in the bathroom though I told him that I hope he waits a few years before going that far. He's had some lovebites so they're definitely making out but he says that they both think they're too young for sex. I do believe him and hope I'm not being naive.
My questions are:
Is this normal at 14? It seems young to me but I'm not sure how I could stop the relationship without making the situation worse.
How do I deal with my own hurt feelings? DS is obviously nice and charming at GF's house but when he's home it's constant arguments and snide comments. I think it's typical teen behaviour but I had no idea it would hurt so much.
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howtocope · 05/01/2017 18:31
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