DD2 is 15. Backstory - DW and I are married. Two daughters. Same sperm doner father, I carried DD1, DW carried DD2. I am average/small build, as is DD1. DW is larger build and overweight. As is DD2.
We have been careful about talking about weight. We talk about being healthy/strong. We don't ban foods, but tend not to have crisps/biscuits in the house. DW is unhappy with her size, but a back injury means she can't exercise. I exercise a bit. DD1 is a sports freak and very strong, muscular and can eat what she wants. DD2 is by nature sedentary, and seems not to have the 'full' switch that DD1 and I have.
Over the last 18 months, DD2 has got bigger and bigger. I estimate she weighs maybe 11 stone at 5 ft 4. She is now looking overweight as opposed to a bit big. Stretch marks everywhere (arms, inner and outer thighs, bum, back, boobs). We have been saying no to seconds, encouraging healthy eating, encouraging exercise. DD2 knows she has got bigger - we've had to buy loads of new clothes, size 14 on average.
The softly, softly approach is not making a difference. I read posts on here which say 'don't mention weight to teen girls, it damages their self esteem, leads to eating disorders etc'. However, what do we do? DD2 is getting bigger before our eyes despite our best supportive attempts to help her. I am beginning to think she needs a kick up the arse kind of conversation, but don't want to cause damage.
She needs to get herself under control basically. She is emotionally ok, no more angsty than others her age. She just will eat more than she burns off, and only exercises when encouraged and I don't have time to do it all with her.
Ideas please, please!!
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We need to talk about this - DD's weight
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Commoonitea · 23/08/2016 20:47
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