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is it time to move out of london?

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toffeetree Sun 19-Jun-16 20:57:23


Is there anyone else out there stuck in a bit of a "now what?!" situation??? I've lived in London for nearly 3 decades, nearly two in one area and have relatively recently moved and am thinking of moving again but this time out of london completely.

I'm in my mid thirties, have a 19-y-o at uni who visits me but essentially, I'm a single woman now and have been for the last three years which is strange in itself after being a single mum etc..

Anyway, I have an opportunity to move out of London and on the one hand would like to although when I moved I thought I would feel different and I don't but am just isolated from friends as am far.

Anyone else got older children or in a simliar situation? I had to stop working due to illness although looking to go back part time initially but everything what do I do kind of thing, my child has left home and don't know anyone but moving (to Brighton from London) seems like a good idea as I spent large chunks of my childhood living by the sea so know what it's like. I also know what it's like to live outside of London and so find myself stuck. Any advice? :-)

bojorojo Sun 19-Jun-16 21:06:58

It could be a good time to go but I think you need to be able to make friends and join in with whatever you enjoy and this could be in London or somewhere else. We live in a small village but I have no friends in the village as no-one is remotely like me. Therefore you cannot guarantee life is better in Brighton than London, but it might be if what is available there meets your needs. I thought this village would meet my needs - but it doesn't. I love what is available in London. Could you rent your house out for a bit and rent in Brighton to see if you like it?

toffeetree Sun 19-Jun-16 21:18:27

yes you're right, I understand what you mean about moving and not making friends, very frustrating as I moved to the other side of london so all new, I don't do a daily school run anymore and don't see others etc..

I hadn't thought about renting out my home and doing a trial but that seems logical, thank you. I know brighton itself is lively and fun etc., for me it's about moving somewhere near water, easily accessible to london and for my son to visit so it's the best coastal destination. the area I live on now is really lovely actually and that's why I'm questioning the move.

bojorojo Sun 19-Jun-16 21:34:39

Why do you need water? If you sail or fish - I get it, but, if you like looking at it on your own, will that help you make friends? When somewhere appears lively and fun, it that visitors or people who live there? What are your interests and how can they be met in Brighton? What would your job prospects be like?

Where you live now - could you volunteer? Listen to children read in school, help with the CAB or do an evening class? Just make sure you will be fulfilled in Brighton and that you are not jumping out of the frying pan into the fire!

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