My daughter's son lives with me and my husband. He has furnished out our insulated shed at the bottom of the garden where he sleeps. He is now 18. I want to treat him as an adult and respect his views but he has a totally ideological idea of the world. All he wants is peace and he wont make decisions - we have struggled to get him to work - he has dropped out of an apprenticeship and working in a shop. He is late all the time, smokes cannabis and gets abusive if I mention I can smell it, and wont follow any of our few house rules. He says I am controlling if I ask any questions about his life or friends (who are lovely) and he has to live his life how he wants. I truly respect this but on the way he has offended my brother, my mother and my son by his behavior and not 'conforming' to their way of life. He regularly falls out with his mother and especially his father and step-mother. I totally love him so much and only want to do what is best for him but my brother and son say I am 'enabling' his behavior. And while I am doing this they do not wish to have any more to do with me. This doesn't really do justice to the problems but I wondered if anyone has advice they can give me that allows him to be an adult and for me to respect his feelings and outlook on life and yet allow him to see other's perspectives. He tells me that this is the happiest he has ever been and I don't want to destroy this as he has had a rather difficult childhood as the piggy in the middle of his warring parents. Advice please.
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heatherAnn · 01/06/2016 17:24
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