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Higuys22 Sun 24-Jan-16 22:24:52

My daughter got asked out by her best friends ex and she's fixing it all very awkward. She wants to break up with him but he is very nice and she doesn't want to upset him. Any advice would be appreciated asap!!

Wineandchocolateneededasap Sun 24-Jan-16 22:30:58

Who wants to break up with him your DD or her best friend?!

Higuys22 Sun 24-Jan-16 22:32:05

DD!

Wineandchocolateneededasap Sun 24-Jan-16 22:34:12

So she is going out with her best friend ex? Does her best friend know and how longs it been going on?
To be honest I'd stay out of it. I'm sure they'll have a big fall out then all be fine again in a couple of weeks. Maybe just tell DD she's not being very loyal to her best friend and leave it there.

Higuys22 Sun 24-Jan-16 22:39:46

Don't think DD knew that he was best friends ex. Only been going on for a few days

Wineandchocolateneededasap Sun 24-Jan-16 22:44:32

Im sure she knew if they are best friends. If she's only been with him a few days it's pretty easy for her to end it.

Higuys22 Sun 24-Jan-16 22:45:47

How do you suggest she should end it? x

Wineandchocolateneededasap Sun 24-Jan-16 22:49:36

By telling him it's not working and she'd rather just be friends or tell him she didn't realise he went out with her best friend and out of loyalty to her she wants to end it.

Higuys22 Sun 24-Jan-16 22:51:57

That's what I told her to do but she said she's scared because he gets the train with her friends every morning to school and she's worried about what they'll say about her.

ExitPursuedByABear Sun 24-Jan-16 22:52:31

Hi. Sorry but this isn't working for me.

Hth

Higuys22 Sun 24-Jan-16 22:54:08

He has also said he loves her loads but she told me she doesn't love him back

ExitPursuedByABear Sun 24-Jan-16 23:14:57

How old are you is she?

tangerinesarenottheonlyfruit Tue 26-Jan-16 00:36:29

You should tell her she doesn't owe herself to anyone.

Just because he is nice to her, doesn't mean she has to be with him. She can choose to leave him anytime she wants. She doesn't need a big reason, all that matters is that it's not working for her.

It really doesn't matter what the friends think, if they are good friends they will understand. If they don't, they're probably not worth bothering with.

You need to tell your DD that the person she needs to worry about most is being true to herself, not what other people think. This gets easier as you get older, but the more she practices telling herself not to worry about what other people think, the better.

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