Hoping for some common sense perspective on something that keeps going round & round in my head & can't talk to anyone cos everyone knows everyone! Thank you
My dd went to high school with close friend, both v shy. My dd blossomed in terms of confidence & friends (tho she's still sensitive), sadly friend hasn't yet. They're now Yr10 & it's been very on & off for four years. Basically my dd would like her friend as a 'casual friend' but not there all the time. At the beginning I encouraged her to look out for her more (our families were good friends & I wanted everyone to be happy) but over time she often thought I was criticising her when I did that or was taking friend's 'side' against her. There was probably too much information sharing between me & the friend's mum. For a while now we havent talked about it, but it hasnt got any better & friend thinking of moving schools/forms. Having her old friend in same class makes difficult situation worse. I feel terrible & keep thinking about whether there's anything I should/could do or my dd. But on the other hand I'm not sure my friend's mum's perspective (ie that you can kind of make them be friends) is true either. I don't think my dd has been objectively cruel but doesn't want to be with her all the time & is ambivalent about some minor issues between them in the past.
Sorry for the long post. Any perspectives very welcome, whether they make me think differently or not.
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catmum50 · 09/11/2015 15:10
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