At my wits end with dc1

[sighthoundofdoom]

Have been having behavioural problems over the last couple of years. She does have some additional needs and in addition i think it is very likely she is on the AS spectrum but we didnt get a diagnoses in that.

She screams in my face, shes rude, she refuses to do anything i say. She hits, she pushes, she breaks things, she throws things. She has yelled that i brought her hitting me on herself.

My parents are v ill at the moment and Mum is terminal but this has been going on long before.

Nothing i do seems to make a difference. Ive shouted, punished, give consequences, cried the lot.

She hates school but is not being bullied.
She just says she gets angry at me if I say no

Ive read the explosive child and take me to town book.
I am being abused in my own home and i cant cope. It is making me suffer from awful anxiety and i am walking on egg shells.

She won't go the school counsellor or doctors.

Im reaching the point i don't like her very much.

[yeOldeTrout]

How old is she?
Is there another adult in the house with you?

[sighthoundofdoom]

13
I am the only adult in the house.

[yeOldeTrout]

How long has she been kicking off like this?

Is there anything you guys can do together when she drops her guard & talks to you like an ordinary person? Even if it's not obvious, like if she blathers on about her mates or Youtubers or has a moan about something totally trivial.

[sighthoundofdoom]

She has issues keeping friends and often choses to be alone. She alienates her friends. I had the most lovely kind well behaved girl till she was around 9 and then the bad behaviour started creeping in. It has been really really bad for the last year or so.

I can't remember the last time she did something kind or even spoke kindly to me. All i get is abuse or her telling me i can shut up/go away and she will do what she wants when and i cannot touch her. (I do not smack and never have)

She ruins every day out we have together and i darent even try going out or doing something she doesn't want to do.

She threatens me if i tell anyone what she is doing.

[yeOldeTrout]

Does she ever babble to you about her life or thoughts?

[sighthoundofdoom]

She doesnt at all and i only get my head bit off if i try to show an interest.
She has no friends, spends lunch in an sen room. Hates school. Only has one hobby. She doesnt want to do anything or try anything new. Nothing motivates her, shes no passion about anything.