My ds has not long turned 13. Everything, I mean everything, is a struggle. Except for gaming and YouTube. He is a loving happy boy with a nice group of friends that unfortunately don't live near enough to bike/walk over to go out on a whim. I think I've kidded myself that's why he's not bothered about going out - if they lived next door he probably still wouldn't make any effort. Absolutely minimum effort with homework, any jobs he has around the house, any interaction with family, any trips anywhere - unless it's a gaming store....
The thing is he does a martial art and has done for years. He's due to take his black belt exams soon but just seems to have no hunger any more. Just at the most important time in his 'career' he just can't be arsed and looks like he will be passed over for promotion consideration by his coaches, they know he can do so much better. We've spoken to him about quitting, given him the time to consider it and let him know we'll back his decision, but he said no way, he'll just try harder.
If he didn't have this activity which he enjoys and is very good at, for the most part, I'd be frightened about what he'd do with his time because everything we say gets eye rolling and tutting. Simple things like please bring your breakfast dish over you'd think we'd asked him to run 50 miles. We're so frustrated.
Is this total lack of interest in practically everything normal? Dh a bit more old school and is all for packing up the Xbox and giving him the gift of boredom for a few weeks thinking it'd force him into being more sociable. He trains 4 nights a week and does, albeit effortlessly, his homework, keeps up at school and behaves well in school,so I don't limit his screen time.
How do I get his interest sparked? In anything? I'm so down about it all.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.
Teenagers
13 year old ds seems to have lost all enthusiasm, 'normal'?!
12 replies
VonHerrBurton · 19/09/2015 11:59
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.