He's 17, trying really hard in school and doing well but he just doesn't do anything else apart from school and computer games. He talks to his friends all evening via skype.
As a younger child, he did every club going, went to various different childcare and we were out every weekend doing something educational or visiting relatives, running around the park etc etc. So it's not as if he's always been like this.
He doesn't go out AT ALL unless it's with the family and even then, it's reluctant.
He doesn't have any hobbies apart from the computer. He wants to go to uni and study computer science.
He does a few chores around the house.
Generally he's a good kid but doesn't seem to have the same motivation as his step sister of the same age. She has a part time job and socialises with friends.
The summer holidays will involve him lying in bed til lunchtime and then on the computer til the early hours - every single day. He comes downstairs for meals and we always eat an evening meal as a family.
I have told them both they will be cooking 1 meal a week and doing their own washing in the summer holidays as well as their other chores.
Every time I try and encourage him to go out and see friends etc, he just doesn't want to.
I know if I could get him out of the house and doing something it would help his confidence, but it's a vicious circle, he won't go out, his confidence drops a bit more, so he doesn't want to go out.
He even says he doesn't "feel 17 years old" meaning that he doesn't feel grown up.
I let him have a free reign with the internet last year after constant arguments in the hope, he might self regulate more if he didn't feel that it was constantly going to be be taken away but although his school work is still good and he doesn't seem too sleep deprived, nothing much else has changed.
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loooongsummerholidays · 16/07/2015 14:09
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