I have posted about this previously, actually started a thread 2 months ago in aibu about it in an attempt, I guess now, to be showing to be strong.
Anyway, the back ground is that 2 months ago my 16 year old DS (still in year 11) decided not to come home one day, and moved in with his GF (same age) at her mother's. He was gone 5 days before I tracked him down. His reason for going was thar he found us all irritating. He does have Aspergers Syndrome, and I got some great advice on here about that is likely to be the main issue.
We always had, what I thought to be a great relationship. We have the same sense of odd humour, we spent quality time together regularly doing stuff we both enjoyed, we talked - a lot, so this was all such a shock.
Anyway, he still isn't back. The GF's mum has now claimed his child benefit, so I reckon a CSA claim isn't far off either. He isn't talking to me at all, and his friends have been in touch to say he has stopped talking to them too.
I am not allowed to visit him at her house as she called the police last time, and they advised I stay away as she (GF's mother) has a history of making false allegations. His phone is broken and his Facebook is accessed constantly by the GF.
The school was involved and set up a meeting between us, but now his exams are over, so is their assistance.
His best friends (all 3 of whom also suffer Aspergers Syndrome) have been in touch to say they are worried as he stopped going out a month ago and hasn't spoken to them in 2 weeks. They say he was always happy with his home life and never had any reason to want to leave.
I know I am rambling. I just want him home. I miss him constantly. I am holding it together most of the time but today I just couldn't do it anymore. I feel so powerless and in the dark.
I could go round and beg and plead but I have done that already, I could yell and scream or be calm and rational and patient, I have done it all and nothing helps.
How do I get through this? How do I get our relationship back? How do I get answers? Everyone says just wait it out but it's been 2 months already. He has flunked every single GCSE - he barely wrote his name on some papers. He has given up everything for this girl and none of it makes sense.
Anyone got any great stories about how their DS did the same, but came through it to become a well adjusted adult?
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GertyD · 06/06/2015 23:53
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