Dd is 13, she is sporty but very aware of make up, hair etc. she does lots of sport outside of school at weekends, and gets on well with the other girls. She also does sport at lunchtime at school and has made lots of new friends this term. She is going skiing with school next year and seems really excited about it.
However, outside school, she doesn't seem to get invited out at all. She's been to a couple of parties and had a good time, 2 others her best friends weren't going so she wouldn't go. But she is bored at weekends and would love to go shopping or to the cinema. She does go occasionally but I get the impression that everyone else is out all the time!!
Are a lot of them like Dd and at home a lot, or is she missing out?
I am not blessed with lots of friends and I don't really know about social lives!
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DD isn't socialising out of school - is this normal?!
Susiesue61 · 23/05/2015 11:34
She has done in the past. When I suggest it now, she tends to pull a face and have a reason why not. I think some of the new friends are pally at school but then don't include her when they're meeting up. I was just trying to get a sense of whether other 13 year olds were like her or were out all the time! (As some friends DDs apparently are 
My eldest dd did go out a few times at weekends but now wont. She said that all they did was wander around the town and hang around on the park (which she said is for little children not young ladies) I'm sure your dd really isn't missing out on an exciting life that no one invited her to. It may be they just hang around and your dd has said to them in the past that it's not the sort of thing that she would want to do so they don't invite her.
It is worth her asking the girls to meet up with her at the cinema etc Sometimes the sporty children are perceived to be busy playing sports so it may not occur to them to invite her themselves.
If she is happy not going out then I wouldn't try and force her. As I said before my dd tried going out, it wasn't for her and she is currently happily sitting writing her novel on what a terrible parent I've been over the years by not buying her an i phone/i pad/anything else I refused to buy 
She's going to be a millionaire but not because of anything I've done. It's difficult being a parent sometimes 
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I have a 13 yo who rarely goes out.
She used to initiate things in Primary, but won't now because "it would be awkward".
She goes to organised things - scouts, a sport club once a week, but doesn't even do socialising online. Maybe exchanges texts once every week or two. She uses instagram but doesn't ever post herself, just looks at others' posts.
I think she just finds socialising outside of school too much effort. It's much easier to hole up in her room writing fanfiction about Harry Potter.
As pp said - things could be worse. At least they are safe!
When my eldest dd was that age she was out a lot and also wanted friends to sleep over etc. Be relieved that she is a home bird, I spent my dd's teen years dropping off/collecting and generally tracking her down, bloody stressful
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