I'm hoping someone on here has had a similar situation and can offer help/advice. I received a phone call at 1am this morning from the local police station to say my 18yo DS had been arrested and would be held overnight. He wouldn't allow the officer to disclose the reason, needless to say I was worried sick all night. I phoned the custody suite this morning and they let me speak with my son. He told me he was caught in possession of cannabis and also a bladed weapon, which was in the car he was travelling in. His two friends were also arrested. He said he's been a complete idiot and I believe/hope this is the short, sharp shock that needs to turn his life around. I knew he has been smoking cannabis,, something I'm not happy about but cannot stop. He has also stolen money from me and told lies about money I have given him in good faith to buy clothes, food etc. Generally he is a good lad, never been in trouble before to my knowledge. He didn't do well at school, rebelled against the system and we had some awful problems at home with my STB exH for a number of years. My DS has in the past been diagnosed with depression. The problems at home have stopped now because I called time on my marriage last year and its just me and my DS at home and things have settled down or so I thought until all this recent behaviour. My DS recently got some work and was really enjoying it, but it's on a self employed contract so he has to wait for the work to be available so it's not regular. I'm so sick with worry and beside myself. I've never had to deal with this and don't know what to do for the best. At this moment I'm still waiting to hear what's going to happen to him, he's still in custody. When I get him home I'll probably want to scream at him and lose it but this probably won't help or get us anywhere. I can easily get him help for his cannabis use if he wants it (I work for an addiction charity) and I will stop giving him money for things he doesn't then buy. Other than that I do not know what else I can do. I feel so sad right now, he's my only child and I try my best to help and support him. I feel let down and that he's let himself down.
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