Had/still having nightmare with my 16yr daughter and her controlling boyfriend. All kicked off when she refused to come home from his house last week, ended up being threatened by his father and him with violence when we turned up to pick her up. Resulted with the police being involved who went to talk to them and we agreed for her to stay there overnight. Idea being things would calm down and we would talk properly day after.
Next day she turned up saying she was leaving but after taking advice from police told her she was still under our care till 18. They were even good enough to come round and talk to her. Asked them to also speak to the boyfriend and his parents about what our wishes were and also we were far from happy at being threatened.
Realize we can't stop her seeing him but made it clear she had to be in at a certain time every night. She is even pushing this by texts going to and fro saying she wants to stay out longer. As soon as she wakes up she dresses and goes straight round to his house. She knew we wanted to talk to her this morning but went straight out, so her dad texted her and asked why she'd gone straight out. This resulted in him receiving abusive threats from the boyfriend, we had already had a discussion with him about checking her phone for messages etc.
My first reaction was again to involve the police, I am really concerned what will happen if he turns nasty with her, but she won't see the guy is bad news. She says she hates living here, what do I do, would putting her into care be the best thing? We love our daughter dearly but we are not happy to be treated in this way. What now???
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Newcastlemum50 · 03/01/2015 18:52
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