Curfew time/bedtime for 14 ds

[Neverenoughhoursintheday]

What is normal for school night to be in/bed and non school night?

[tilliebob]

My teens (13 and 15)have to have phones/xbox etc off at 10. They read longer than that often but in bed at 10. The 15 is growing like a beanpole just now and often goes to bed much earlier as he's shattered.

[tilliebob]

Ach -non school nights I don't really bother. I'm in bed now and 15yo is yapping to mates via Xbox and 13 is singing along to Let it Go with her mates via Skype we live in a wee village and don't get out much DH will make sure everyone is abed before he comes to bed.

[myotherusernameisbetter]

Similar in my house DSs 14 and 13. School nights, off screens (if at home and not out at Scouts or swimming etc) by 9.30/10ish, and into bed with lights out usually about half 10 - they don't need to be up until 7.30/7.45. Weekends/holidays I like them off screen at half 10ish and lights out by 11.30 and they are always up about 8ish, they don't lie in.

[MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic]

DS2 goes to his room around 9ish, and then usually has lights off around 11. He shares a room with DS1 (who's nearly 17) and is always awake after him, which is why we don't have a proper set time. He's never needed as much sleep as his siblings. As long as he gets up okay in the morning I'll trust him to choose when to sleep. On a non-school night they might stay in the front room longer, if they're watching something with us, but tbh we have a small flat and it's nice for me and DH to have some adult time so they tend to wander off anyway

[myotherusernameisbetter]

It might just be genetics etc, but they are both nearly 6 foot tall and haven't had a day off school since they were 6 and and haven't had a sickness bug at all since that age....they haven't even had a cold for at least 2 years!

[MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic]

I should say that mine have no consoles in their room, they're all in the front room so we have no games after around 8pm just because that's how it works logistically.

[myotherusernameisbetter]

Mine have consoles in their rooms.....and in the family room I can see by the router from my PC whether they are logged on or not as everything connects to wifi. they could be switching of the wifi and going on things anyway but they get up every day on the first shout so I am not going to try and trap them.

[nooka]

My two (15 and 14) go to bed (lights off) at 10pm school and non school nights unless we have something going on.

We're not fierce about it and some nights it's a bit later, but generally they head off about then anyway. Sometimes ds complains if we don't remind him of the time! He is a big gamer and his friends (some in different time zones) mostly are still playing when he goes off but he sees going to bed at a sensible time as a good idea and pushes back if they give him grief.

[NoLongerJustAShopGirl]

My 2 - 12 and 14 - 9pm school nights (up at 6.30), any time at all on non school nights. No stuff in room other than bed lamp for reading.

And 8pm phone curfew - ish - barring emotional crises - 2 teenage girls... there is ALWAYS an emotional crisis.

We are not strict on timings if something is going on, but generally they want to go up at 9 sine they both love their sleep right now.

[Liberated71]

This is really interesting. Thanks for posting.
I insist on an hour "screen free" before lights out- by 10pm on a school night. They are up at 7 on school days. Youngest is impossible to rouse but typically is wide awake (and loud) earlier than that at weekends. That said they do usually run in quite willingly.
The problem I have is weekends. They want to stay up later but I don't feel comfortable going to bed and leaving them up (I have no DP to round them up later!). Major trust issues - as if I'd sleep anyway. I know I'll have to face it in time (they are only 13 and 14 now)

[Sonothappeningyet]

My 13DS goes up around 8.45 and lights out 9 school nights. He is up at 6:45 and has always been a child that needs his sleep so while he'd like to be up later we are strict on school nights.

Weekends I usually shoo him out of the lounge when I am fed up with rugby being watched and depending on his sports commitments bed around 10ish. If he doesn't have matches at the weekend he sleeps very late so I figure he is catching up on the week.

I think he is unusual though and most of his friends are up later and have TVs and consoles in their rooms. MY DS doesn't.