Long story but try to make it shorter. 9 months ago, my then 16 yo dd started seeing a 21 yr old lad. I welcomed him into my home and long story short over the next few months found out that he was a thief, liar and does cocaine, drinks to excess on occasions going AWOL from his family and was generally awful. This all came to a head in August when I banned my dd from seeing him. A few days later she announced if I wouldn't accept their relationship she was leaving to live with him and his family which she consequently did. I did the whole tough love thing.....go live with him and see what it's like without us......and went through hell. She gradually got back in contact then 3 wks ago phoned me in tears saying she made a huge mistake and wanted to come home. Once home she told me he was controlling her and hated her being in touch with me, that he was still doing drugs and had gone AWOL twice lying to her when he went on drinking benders. I welcomed her home, helped her sort out a new job etc. today she dropped a huge bomb shell. She text me saying she had been back in tough with him and wanted to be with him. She said she knew I would not accept this so she had arranged to move back in with him and his family.....tonight! I have since told her she will have nothing else to do with this family and that I will no longer have contact with her......the whole tough love thing again! She appears to not care......I am in pieces and don't know what to do. She has just started a great new career which I know she will mess up being with him. She's a lovely girl......when she's not being controlled! His whole family are wasters.....I just don't know where to go from here. HELP! Sorry about long drawn out thread
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