Hi
Some of the long term peeps on here will remember me as the mum with the 14 year old sectioned for nearly two years away from home in a medium secure unit for violence and schizophrenia.
Well he did well 'outside' and completed his gcse's in record time and has a little job in a store. He is one of three and exhausting- I am in school regularly (6th form) which he changed too from college as he was unhappy and now he is unhappy there. His job is temporary and his manager thinks he struggles with people (ASD) and doesn't know if he will get a permanent contract. He is excellent when left alone but doesn't 'get' his co workers.
Today he has text to say he wants to leave 6th form and I am devastated. I have fought tooth and nail to keep him in there and I have no idea what he thinks he will do. He got a handful of gcse's due to hospital stay and has no real other skills. He hates college, he hates school, he moans about work. He complains he doesn't sleep (this is true and was always a symptom of declining mental health) and can be aggressive and unpleasant at home.
I just want him to be happy but it always feels out of his grasp.
Selfishly as I am a single mum I am really concerned of the ramifications of him leaving eg tax credits, housing benefit, dla etc. I know that shouldn't play a role but SS deemed we needed a MUCH bigger house to house him and his needs and I can just about afford it with all the help I get. What happens if it's stops?
I just don't know what to do? I want to say let's find something part time until you feel better but is that realistic? He has been ill for such a long time and it's physically making me ill with anxiety worrying how I can support him financially and emotionally.
I just feel spent. Any advice would be great
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wannabestressfree · 10/11/2014 15:16
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