I'm posting for a bit of reassurance I suppose on a situation we have with our 18 year old. I'm sorry this is long....
We have always provided well for her and encouraged her. She's had everything any child could wish for. We spend lots of time together as a family although her dad does work a lot of hours. I work full time as well. Family time was very important to us. Encouragement came by the bucketload especially with studies at school and her hobby of horse riding. She has her own horse paid for by us. She's wanted for nothing, she has wardrobes full of clothes, laptops, iPads, the latest phone, driving lessons until she passed her test then we bought her a car, (taxed and insured which we paid for). We also paid for holidays abroad with her friends.
Things started changing when she met a lad. We were happy she'd met someone until she started failing college. Her language became awful, swearing at us (especially me), being really disrespectful, her room was disgusting and I eventually stopped cleaning it. She was staying out to all hours and not telling us if she was coming home. It now transpires she was kicked out of college in March for non attendance. We were completely unaware she hadn't been attending as she'd been leaving the house to go in the morning. She has two part time jobs as when we realised she had been grown out of college we said she had to work but we would help her with the upkeep of her car, We didn't charge any dig money so her wages were her own.
After a particularly bad swearing/shouting session (calling me for everything because we don't allow the boyfriend to stay over) I asked her to leave the house which she's done. We have been in touch via text until she asked me for money for her phone bill. I refused as I feel we've given her so much already that she should now stand on her own two feet. She is now ignoring texts/calls and emails.
Am I being selfish in thinking to leave her to contact us now and it should be with a rather large apology? Has anyone else been through this? I just feel she's a very very lucky young woman to have all that we've given her and that her behaviour is awful. I'm very hurt and disgusted at her. Please no awful comments about the amount we have given her I feel bad enough as it is.
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Kickedintheteeth · 18/07/2014 15:42
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