My DM is struggling a bit my DC growing up. I have DS1 (16), DS2 (14), DS3 (12), DS4 (7) and DD (6).
They all love their Nan, and since we recently moved back to where she lives they see a lot more of each other which she loves. However, she struggles with the fact that my oldest boys are no longer the cuddly little kids they once were.
For clarification, my mother is young, only 65 so very able to be involved the our lives, which is awesome. However, she wants the DC to see her several times a week, spend entire sunday's together, have special outings, etc. Which would be fine in moderation, but her expectation is for a weekly basis, and she doesn't understand that my teens don't want to have sleepovers at her house anymore!
She's started to make the DC feel really uncomfortable, saying lots of passive aggressive things, suggesting that they no longer love her. DS1 came back from her house tonight, and said she'd got a right face on when he said he didn't want to sleepover on the weekend as it was a friend's party.
I've now got to say something to her, but it's not going to go down well. I think she's just forgotten that children grown up. I'd love for the older DC to manage their own relationship with her now that they're old enough, but think she needs to alter her expectations a bit!
So Mumsnetters, what are your DC like with their grandparents, and how would you navigate this awkward situation?
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scouseontheinside · 06/05/2014 11:10
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