Hi, I am new to this so forgive me if something isn't right. I have 3 children the eldest is 13. She is lying all the time about anything and everything and we have no trust in her anymore. We have been checking her phone as we were worried about her behaviour. It has transpired through her phone that she has been lying to her friends and has been getting caught out and losing a lot of friendships because of her lies. When we confront her about it she gets very defensive about the fact that we are checking her phone to the point that she has now put a passcode on it. (this doesn't sit well with me) some of my friends say that I shouldn't check her phone and should allow her some privacy. I understand this of course but because the trust is gone I now cant help but check up on her all of the time. This is a vicious cycle that I don't know how to break. I have also discovered through her phone that she is talking a lot about having sex and some of the girls she used to hang around with have started calling her names because of her flirtaceous behaviour towards boys. I don't think she has acted on these sexual inuendos I have witnessed but I don't know any more. Is there anyone out there that has these issues? Should I stop checking the phone? I feel like I don't know where to turn to and it is affecting relationships within our household. Any advice would be welcomed :)
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