Hi, have put in various posts about the problems we are having with our 16 yr old ...and yes our other two were ok but her behaviour has and is very challenging.
One problem we have is her lack of respect for other people's things. Today she took her dad's bus pass (not an OAP one but one which gives cheaper fares if you load money onto it and use it instead of cash) without asking...went into his WALLET, in his trouser pocket (he was in his jim jams downstairs) ...she'd landed a last minute arrangement ot meet a lad in town and left her music group early to do so, thus letting them down too (which we pay for..second time she's done this..but swears she still wants to go..enjoys the social) We couldn't give her a lift as we share lifts with someone else and I wasn't making the half hour trip twice..we'd have got into town with her only to turn round and drive back to music school..don't judge me please, this isn't the first time.
Previously she has stolen money off my debit card to top her phone up (I didnt' realise it was real money really and I was desperate she said..yeh right..not realised it was real money at 15?)
She also has taken alcohol to drink without asking (sorry but I'm not happy about her necking back cider on her own in the house) and today I found 2 boxes of chocolates, empty, in her room (no wonder she hasn't been eating..and I was worried about her not eating much?!) and the two empty boxes of choc biscuits I'd bought for everyone to eat at xmas...she has sat in her room and eaten them on her own. They weren't even in the kitchen cupboards but were in the cellar, with the xmas stuff. she also used to help herself to her older sister's stuff til she got a lock for her door
I just don't know what to do and can't understand why she doesn't respect other peoples' belongings (more than the food..altho upset she has eaten our xmas goodies) Her sisters wer bought up the same and we've not had this problem. Her future worries me...if she doesn't respect others belongings? Am not sure how to tackle this, and feel I can't buy anything without her helping herself to it. We have discussed it, it seems to go in one ear and out the other. Might I add she is NOT deprived, far from it!
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no respect for others possessions/stealing..what should I do?
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febel · 30/11/2013 18:03
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