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Different gender 14 year olds sharing room on a sleepover

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Jux Mon 02-Sep-13 01:57:38

Is this common? They are just friends and the boy is v interested in a different girl; dd is not interested in the boy, except as a friend. He has, apparently, often had sleepovers with girls in their group , sharing a room. Dd says her reputation will never recover if we make him sleep on the sofa.

I do believe that she has no interest in him, but dh says "he's a 14 yo boy! I know what they're like."

Jux Mon 02-Sep-13 11:39:02

Yup. Agree with all your points, and plantsitter particularly. Thanks for putting it so well - I think that was my incoherent fear which I had not been able to articulate.

AF, whenever a sleepover woth a boy has been mooted in the last year or so, dh has talked about barbed wire round the bed, trip wires and so on.

AnyFucker Mon 02-Sep-13 11:45:16

Oh, right smile

DH utilises the sitting all night in the doorway with a shotgun technique wink

AnyFucker Mon 02-Sep-13 11:45:53

I am joking of course. Someone upthread said that saying no is to protect the boy just as much as your girl, and I totally agree.

bevelino Tue 03-Sep-13 19:41:06

OP no it is not common.

Jux Tue 03-Sep-13 21:46:18

Well, it all was fine. They stayed up late watching dvds of old sitcoms (70s). He slept on a put up bed in the sitting room and she slept in her bed. They spent a fait ampunt of time in her room, but the door was open and whenever I went past or wandered in there was no indication at all that anything untoward was going on.

I'm glad we've set the precedent though. Thanks all thanks

perplexedpirate Tue 03-Sep-13 21:53:08

I'm glad you found what works for you OP but I did want to say that I used to sleep over with my boy or girl friends all the time, from the ages of about 14 onwards.
Nothing remotely untoward ever happened, and we are still all mates now, 20 years on.
So it's not always a bad thing.

PiratePanda Tue 03-Sep-13 22:02:52

No. I secretly appreciated having "strict parents" who I could blame for not allowing me to do supposedly cool but in reality stupid things I was under peer pressure to do.

My parents' house rules were no boys in bedrooms, no closed doors, nothing below the neck, don't take anything off and don't lie down grin

I'm grateful.

perplexedpirate Tue 03-Sep-13 22:12:20

Conflicting Pirates, there!

Jux Wed 04-Sep-13 08:03:26

I think I love your parents, Pirate grin

PiratePanda Wed 04-Sep-13 19:20:21

Which pirate? grin

Jux Wed 04-Sep-13 19:43:07

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaargh! PiratePanda, yours.

(blush sorry PerplexedPirate)

perplexedpirate Wed 04-Sep-13 19:58:47

Too many goddamn pirates!

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