My 15 yr old dd has just split up with her first bf who she has been with for about 6 months. They were really good friends, spent lots of time together (although rarely totally alone) and I think that they kissed for the first time very recently. She is hurt and confused because she has no idea why it happened. One day she said that they were really close and obvioulsy happy together, the next they didn't see each other because he was on a school trip and texts were a bit distant in the evening and the next he told her that it wasn't working. She was so shocked and upset that she didn't ask why or say very much at all and now they aren't talking even though they see each other every day at a small school where it is impossible to avoid each other.. Even I can't see how things can change that quickly as it's not as though they actually fell out or anything. She says that she doesn't want to know why and won't approach him or even talk to friends about it in case they know something and I presume that this is because she doesn't want to be hurt any further.
I think that because it happened so quickly someone may have been stirring or it may just be some huge misunderstanding, but perhaps he just doesn't like her any more! Do boys usually offer a reason or do they find explaining themselves too difficult? (no experience of boys - as a mum, that is and I can't remember from when I was young(er)!
Do you think she should be encouraged to talk to him?
Do couples in this situation usually at least get to be on friendly terms again?
Do relationships at this age often stop and then start up again and if so, how long does it usually take for them to come to their senses?
Sorry for all the questions but I am feeling hurt on her behalf and don't know what to think!!
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Ohsotricky · 30/04/2013 18:32
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