My daughter is in Year 8 and doesn't do anything with school friends after school or at weekeds. She used to have quite a busy schedule while at primary school with sleepovers, parties and out of school clubs. Since starting secondary school she dropped all her clubs, and now seems to prefer to be at home with me all the time. Occasionally she'll say someone from school has asked her to do something, but then 1/2 hour later she'll say she can't be bothered to go. I have asked her to invite a friend round at weekends for a sleepover, but she never does.
I don't know if she actually has friends at all ! She hardly ever goes onto Facebook, and doesn't text much to anyone.
Last weekend she asked if she coud go bowling with 5 other girls. I said yes, delighted she was actually going to do something. But later she said she wasnt going to go, and when I asked her why not, she just said she didn't want to and didn't know why. What can be going on ? She later asked me if she was weird for not wanting to go. Of course I reassured her that she wasn't, but now I can't stop thinking about it, and worry about it, but I don't want to go on and on at her incase she does start thinking she's wierd.
She's never been great at making friends nor of being part of a big group. I don't know any of the parents of any of her 'friends' now, so I can't try and arrange something for her, not that she'd be happy with me doing that anyway.
Does anyone have any ideas about what's going on, or how I can incourage her to get out and about with friends. I feel the more she doesn't do anything, the harder it will become for her, plus she'll be excluded from any future activities.
I'm a single parent and work full time, and don't have any sort of social life. Do you think that's rubbing off on her making her just stay in with me all the time ?
Any help very welcome. Thank you. Louise
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