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You aren't a wuss, you are a mum who cares.

Remind yourself that your job is to give them roots and wings. She's off to fly which means you must have given her the confidence in everything that binds her home.

Katy I'm glad she's feeling better.

She will be fine and I'm guessing she'll be dancing and therefore she'll be very happy.

She will be dancing - so she will be fine

It's me I'm worried about

Thanks Njaw - that's lovely

Keep yourself very busy Katy - do nice, relaxing, enjoyable and/or personally-challenging things you wouldn't normally do if she was around. Then next time, you'll associate her going away with treats for you!

Have a hug. IT's a biggie but she will cope and learn some useful skills on the way ( regardless of the course!). You will learn skills too- a little trial in how to adapt to having her a little further away from you, but she'll still be your chick and you'll both be happy to have her under your wing at the end of the week.

It'll be fine, it'll be fine, it'll be fine

I keep telling myself......I might believe it one day (probably when she gets back)

Katy, think how far you have come with her in the last year or so. You may be a wuss, but you (and she) are doing fucking well!

Congratulations to both of you.

Thank you - it seems so long ago now.....

I'm still worried tho'

My kids are adults. DS (20) lives a long way from me but I still worry about him. Not in a way that means I interfere but in a natural, loving way. I think it is our place to worry, worrying doesn't mean you are a 'wuss', it means you love her.

And yes, it WILL be fine.

Oh dear - so I have years if it to come

It gets easier because their growing independence becomes your normality (and as a trade off you get to do things without having to plan around the children).

Oh, yes, many years . My mum still worries about me if I drive home from her house in the dark. And I'm 50, she is almost 80.

Oh God, my mum is the same; that really doesn't bode well for my peace of mind in the future <slaps forehead>

it's getting worse

My mum is perfectly sensible, my DDad still wants ringing when I get back from their place.

I left home 27 years ago.

What's up [comforting].

She'll be fine, you know.

ds2 went off on a train to stay with a friend yesterday. He had to change trains in the middle of Dublin, and then get off at the right stop.

I texted him this afternoon to sarcastically say "I presume you got there ok yesterday". He was embarrassed enough to actually ring me and apologise.

He didn't know that I had already rung the mum to make sure he got there, but had to make her swear not to tell him I was checking up.

He is 14, has no health problems, and always falls on his feet - so I really sympathise.

My mum just told me she is worried about my uncle as he might not cope

& DD is messing around with packing

Arrggghhh!!

It'll be fine, from your posts she is a capable young woman.

Your uncle is a grown man.

He doesn't have to cope. He just has to breathe in and out, while your dd behaves like an angel for him. Because you know that's what's going to happen .

Do you think £50 is enough - I thought £10 a day

Hopefully we will pay for her travel & I have provided the main bit of lunch everyday & puddings, so snacks and drinks

With £30 left with my uncle in case of emergencies

She will be fine, she will be fine

£10 a day is loads.

Make her split it - a tenner in her pocket, 20 in her handbag, 20 in her case/gearbag.

The only thing that could possibly go wrong is that she will simultaneously forget to get off at a stop and lose her phone.

In which case I'm sure she can (a) get on the next train back and (b) ask some suitably motherly person if she can borrow a phone.

She will be fine.

Good idea about splitting it

I always make sure they have a fiver and a couple of coins to hand over if mugged. None of them ever have been, by the way.

ds1 used to carry two phones so he could hand over an old broken one. But he was hanging out in very dodgy places with even more dodgy people.

Not feeling any better about this........