My son is aged 14 and since starting back at school in year 10 this year, he has forgotten so many things for school, I have lost count.
This morning was a complete nightmare, he has lost his school shoes, didn't know where his mobile phone was that he only had last night (which was completely out of charge by the time he found it), had only packed half his lunch because he hadn't listened to me telling him where everything was last night, couldn't find his PE kit (which I wash and fold and put in his bedroom and all he has to do is put it in his pe bag) etc etc. And to top it all, he has to be shouted at to get out of bed and finally shows up downstairs 5 minutes before he has to leave with all of the above to do and breakfast to have.
So he will be getting yet another detention, nearly missed his bus, meant that we couldn't give a lift to the boy down the road as they thought we must have gone without him, I will make him pay for the school shoes (which I suspect he has left at a friends on the last day of term) but he has spent out nearly £100 since the start of term on things he has lost including GCSE work. I've spent today sending e-mails to school to explain about his lack of shoes and that I'm on the case, phone calls to various friends mums to see if they have the shoes etc and I'm sick of it.
We are actually a very organised house and I had my 3 step children at home this morning all of whom are pretty organised. However, my step daughter moved in with us full time at the beginning of the summer holidays and I think my sons lack of interest in his own stuff is because he is so busy messing about with her and not thinking about boring stuff anymore. He is much harder work since she moved in.
DS is generally quite tidy but just has no interest at all in thinking for himself and I'm at my wits end. He is supposed to be saving for something he really wants but can't because he has to replace so much and I'm genuinely upset for him. He just shrugs his shoulders and pays the money.
I've tried helping him with lists, shouting and getting angry, banning him from the pc in the evenings, nagging him and stepping back and letting him make his own mistakes but nothing works.
I haven't been with his Dad since he was 4 and this behaviour is just like his Dad used to be, so I'm wondering if it's just genetic and I should give up! It's so frustrating because I want to help him but I don't know how.
Any advice would be much appreciated before I throttle him!
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theredhen · 05/11/2012 13:36
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