I have a DS 15yrs and DD 16yrs.
DS has a paper round and he also gets money from us on an adhoc basis. This involves most days him saying 'can I have some money?' This I find very annoying, yet when I think about it, it probably only adds up to at most, £30 ish per month because it is often a pound here and there and then occasionally £10 if he is going out somewhere (cinema etc). He is not good with money and tends to ask for stuff all the time. To which he gets a no unless of course I feel he needs it, ie new shoes, clothes essentials. He is currently saving his paper round money to buy his girlfriend a birthday present then Christmas present.
DD has just started college and is said to be looking for a part time job all though this has been very half hearted so far. We pay £20 into her account by S/O each month and this is all she has. She rarely asks for money and has very little interest in shopping. Now that she is at college though the expense has increased with bus fares and wanting money for lunch because it is too embarrassing to take a packed lunch like she did at school. When she wants to go to town to meet friends she asks me to take her and pick her up but if I suggest that she gets the bus and pays with her own money she is very put out and we end up arguing.
This situation was never thought out or planned, it has just evolved over the years. And looking at it now written out it seems a bit unfair and unbalanced.
I admit that I have been soft with them over the years, never made them help at home to earn their money because it was easier to do it myself than put up with the grief that I would get from them.
What do you all do, what system do you have in place? Any suggestions would be good.
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mrsm68 · 19/09/2012 12:16
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