My friend, an academic in a small Amercan town, has a 12-yr-old son who is such a seriously talented musician that there was no choice but to send him to a boarding school in England for musical prodigies. In a way it's a bit tragic: this boy has been going to boarding school since he was 10 or so and hardly sees his parents, who don't have the money to visit him that often. So the boy has guardians who are paid to look after him on weekends and during half terms. But unfortunately these guardians are away this half term, so I've agreed to take him in, as a favor to my friend, and because I can't possibly say no to a homeless boy.
Problem is, I've taken the boy in once before and it was no fun. In addition to being a talented musician he's scarily intelligent & has the arrogance to go with it. I found him kinda insufferable, to be honest. I took him to the concert of a famous musician who plays the same instrument that this boy does, and when I tried to discuss the performance with him, he answered my questions in obnoxious monosyllables. And he appeared to just barely tolerate me, my husband, and my kids (6 & 3) and said virtually nothing to us. And after being dined & entertained by us for a whole weekend, there was no thank-you, and no word at all, in fact.
Here are some additional problems:
--I work from home and, like his dad, I teach. . .so I can't really entertain him during the week.
--I have a nanny who will have to look after my two: is it right to ask her to watch him too?
--He's quite self-sufficient and introverted. . .so is it OK just to leave him in his room to his own devices for long periods?
-- If not, what do we do with him for 9 days?
I know very little about 12-year-olds, so any practical suggestions greatly appreciated.
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Help! I've agreed to take in a friend's 12-yr-old during half term
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Medea · 06/02/2006 21:02
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