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petunia0 · 05/01/2011 21:13

yesterday i came to my attention that a personal item of mine was missing from my lingerie draw. it was my vibrator! i confronted my DH (as last time he stole it out of jealosy). I confronted him to find that it wasnt him.

i was slightly worried at this point but i soon dissmissed it as me misplacing it. Now i was worried that one of my 3 children may pick it up.

Later having completely forgotten about the incident i was tidying my DS's room (he is 15) when i noticed something poking out from under his bed. on close inspection it was my stolen property!

I am lost as what to do in this situation as it is evident that he has used it! should i confront him or just forget the whole bothersome ordeal?

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readingurz · 05/01/2011 21:25

Another Troll?

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Reginasadvice · 05/01/2011 21:44

It happens to me all the time.

I'd suggest talking to your DS, he might be going through a lot, it seems he is experimenting.

Is it possible he is gay?
It is a hard thing to come to terms with, homophobia and all.

Sit down with a cup of tea and talk through his problems.

And you can sterilise it in vinegar, leave it submerged for 30mins clean as a whistle when it comes out. Make sure you rinse it before using.

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petunia0 · 05/01/2011 22:10

@Reginasadvice i never concidered the possibility of him being gay! thinking about it it is a very real possibility. This only makes the situation more awkward. although i would be ok with him being gay my husband may cause an issue what should i do? im starting to think bringing it up is a bad idea. i might just let it drop.

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GypsyMoth · 05/01/2011 22:12

you 2 are posting together all over teens board.......its meant to be where we can discuss you,not where you come to post rubbish!!

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dressedbutstressed · 05/01/2011 22:12

Well petunia0, I think you have a serious issue on your hands. I have fostered teenage children on off for the last 5 years, and being young myself I can relate to the complexity of emotion your DS is going through. Puberty is a strange and troublesome thing, do you talk freely about it? You say your DH stole the sex toy in question,'out of jelousy', is he providing a sufficent role model? I think what you need to do is talk through the 'taboo' subjects with your son, and get you GH to back you up in the conversation. things like mutual masterbation and sex gender sex are rarely discussed in school sex ed lessons, and it's possible that he's just curious about his body and sex. I would let him keep the sex toy, as taking it back would be like taking back a used hankie.
however if you do want it back I would advise bicarbonate of soda, and then a thourough rinse clean.

has your son got a girlfriend? maybe he could release some of his urges that way.

anyway, regards,

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Reginasadvice · 05/01/2011 22:14

Is your husband homophobic.

Why not make subtle hints and see if he works it out himself.

I think you should leave it, but tell your son that you'd except him anyway.

And subtle hints that you'll always love him.