TS experience advice

[cjmummytobe]

Hi. My husband and I are due to welcome our little man via TS in May. Whilst I am generally very excited I have been on an absolute rollercoaster of emotions throughout. I have previously suffered with anxiety (pretty much due to our fertility problems) and am a terrible over-thinker, but I recently have been hit with an 'oh my god!' mindframe! I'm terrified. What if I don't bond with the baby? I'm sure many IP's go through this so can anyone give advice?
I have colleagues that have been pregnant and everyone is constantly asking them question son the baby, whereas I only get asked occasionally. I know this is probably due to their being a lack of a physical bump but it means that I often forget that we are due! Anyone else experienced this?

[cjmummytobe]

Thanskfor your reply. Why do you wish you'd finished a couple of weeks beforehand? I am currently planning on working right up until as late as possible. I am definitely becoming an emotional wreck!

[Zozozzz]

cjmummytobe, congrats! I hope you still check this board. I am not sure if I got it right, but TS is a traditional surrogacy. Am I right? So, my question is how did you cope with the fact that the surrogate is genetically connected to your child? It just seems to me to be so hard. When we started to look into infertility treatment options we did not consider traditional surrogacy as it seemed to be so hard for us. We were thinking of my pwn eggs for the baby. But when it did not work we moved to donor ones. Moreover not all countries where surrogacy is legal allow the traditional surrogacy... And I guess if we did the TS I would be afraid that the surrogate would not give to us our child in this case. Anyways gestational surrogacy seems to me more reliable way and less problematic. That is my opinion. No willing to offend somebody or anything Xxx