Hello,
I don't come on here much but I thought there might be someone who may be able to shed light on how I feel or have gone through/be going through the same. I'll try to be brief;
I'm mid forties she is couple of years younger. We grew up close. Best friends. Over the past ten years her behaviour towards me got noticeably nasty and at times emotionally manipulative and over the past 5 years, although we've kept in touch and I love her, I like her less as she blames me for many things and is very very abusive at all times of the day and night via text, whatsapp etc..
We (me and my other sister) had worked out over the last 12 months that she had a drink, cocaine and prescription drug problem. She hit rock bottom earlier this year (took sleep pill overdose) and between us we got her to a good recovery unit where she seems to have done well and is still working at being sober. This is good news.
I have read so much about addicts and seen a counsellor as this obvs has been like a grenade dropped on all my family. I am trying to stay strong and mostly managing but sometimes I still feel so rubbish. Her friends were completely unaware to what has been happening as they have not had any of the abuse that she directed at her family. In their eyes we are the bad lot. This is what is upsetting me most. Why does she seem to hate us, blame us and punish us so much? - I say us but I think I mostly mean me. I haven't seen or heard form her since she went into recovery because she frankly scares me and I don't trust her anymore and also because I think its better for her to do her AA and get better without having to think about us lot. I guess she'll get in touch, or not, at some point?
Sorry for outpouring. I think I need to try Al Anon don't I?
Thankyou for any advice or support anyone can offer.
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finecheese · 24/10/2017 14:51
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