what do I wear to this funeral?

[steppemum]

Hi, MIL funeral on Friday, not in UK.

Our family is not very stylish, we normally do jeans, fleeces and trainers very well. I am 49, tall, but size 18-20.

so, the community in which the funeral is happening has a few strict rules. Women and girls must be in skirts, dark colours, black not essential. Must be smart.
Had to buy dd1 a dress yesterday, she does not do dresses at all ever, but has agreed to wear one for granny's funeral. (pisses me off as she would be much more comfortable in her school black torusers)

My style never fits the women of this group, so I am resigned to not looking right whatever I wear, but just want to look appropriate.

2 choices:

long black straight skirt, with coloured T plus black elegant cardie, and black chunky necklace.

dress, dark, elegant, knee length, black with white flecks all over.

either would have to be worn with knee length black boots, and black coat.

Bought the dress this morning in Asda, looks very nice, understated and smart, but now wondering if the black skirt would be better. can't ask dh, his style sense is worse than mine, he can only tell me if it passes the 'rules'

I should say neither of us agree with this rubbish, but his dad does, and it is his wife who has died (dh stepmum) and so it is important that he is not upset.

help!

[Mooseygoose]

I would say the dress sounds smarter.

[Diddlydokey]

I'd wear the dress with a black cardi if it is sleeveless.

[AliciaMayEmory]

Definitley the dress. And it will probably be easier to wear than several items that may annoy you after a while.

[Yakari]

Well for me 'understated and smart' would trump every time for a funeral. So I'd say the dress.
But if you genuinely think from your experience the skirt would be better, I guess it depends on what colour the 'colour tshirt i - a muted tone great, scarlet red not so great. So depending on your colouring - grey, dusky purple, cream, teal, something like that?

[keely79]

Dress sounds smarter but are there any rules re length of skirt etc that you need to be considerate of (e.g. I know some communities require knees to be covered).

[steppemum]

thanks all, just tried to find the dress on the website to link it, but it isn't there.

the black skirt and cardie combo, is very comfy, it is my default setting when I need to be day time smart, but I normally wear it with a bright pink T

will need to check if the black cardie works over the dress, sleeves are elbow length.

[steppemum]

the dress is knee length, and that is fine.

[steppemum]

just to say, would wear a toned down T for the funeral.

This for hyper reformed conservative Christian church service by the way.
just glad that hats are no longer essential. (they were when we first met)