New hair dye help please!

[Queenbean]

I have very very dark brown hair with red tones. I had my hair balayaged a few times last year (sort of dip dye but not such a harsh line), loved it, it was a warm caramel at the bottom but, mostly thanks to my laziness, went a bit brassy in colour.

I went to the hairdresser today and said I wanted to get rid of the balayage and have it all more one colour, a nice caramel colour with some blonder highlights through the top. I have just left and it's much blonder than I wanted, it's almost ashy blond throughout. I told the hairdresser I didn't really like it and she said that shed put the ash tones to counteract the brassiness / warm tones that were in my hair

Her advice was to wash it a few times and let the toner do something, and if I still don't like it to go back. She aaid it will naturally tone down to be slightly darker / more natural with a few washes. And also because I have never had properly blonde hair it's a surprise and I will get used to it

Is she lying? Will it calm down after a few washes?

Apart from going back to the salon, other options are shaving my head or chopping my head off. Please be kind.

[unimaginativename13]

Washing it isn't going to make it darker

It may wash some of the ashy tone out.

[Queenbean]

I'm not exactly sure what it all means as I've never had blonde like this before so may have paraphrased!

[unimaginativename13]

Pressed post too soon!

It's true you need some time to get used to being a different colour, I find I need to wash and style myself a few times. Put make up on etc.

Just return if you don't like it and get her to add some darker tones through.

Did you say you didn't like your red tones maybe and she took it one step too far?

[Queenbean]

I think I did mention the brassiness and she went too far the other way to counteract it

I have got home and put some serum on it which has already toned it down. So I actually think it will probably be ok