I recently changed my hair colour from very light blonde to a coppery red. At first i liked it but am now not so sure. Luckily it's very short so in ok condition after all the dying. Some people say they really like it, others are like "it's nice......but i really liked the bblonde. And ds(5) and dd(3) keep pn saying mummy we like the white hair ! what do you looks best o Oon cropped hair ? I'm quite pale with green eyes.
I think with your colouring red hair would look great! Maybe people are reacting to the change, especially your children. Live with it for a few months before you decide to keep it or change back to blonde.