White to a wedding?

[Floandno]

My brother's getting married in a month in Poland and i've been lent a really beautiful dress to wear.
Now, i would never even dream of wearing an entirely white dress to a wedding, let alone the wedding of my brother and my lovely SIL, but i'm unsure wether this dress will be acceptable:
It's made to look like a sleeveless shirt tucked into a high waisted skirt. The skirt is a pale pink and the 'shirt' is white and ruffled. I would also be wearing it with white pumps.
Would it be very offensive to wear it? I'm not sure how strict the Polish are about weddings!
Opinions please!

[BranchingOut]

I think that sounds ok - as long as it isn't all white or remotely bridal, then some white on an outfit is OK.

[StopRainingPlease]

Does sound a bit weddingy to me.

Don't know about the Polish either, but the only reason I wore white (well, ivory) to my own wedding was so that I could stand out from the rest . If you can't be the star of the show and the focus of the pictures on your wedding day, when can you?

[sedgiebaby]

How long is the dress, could you put chunkish metallic accessories/shoes (gold?) with it to make it a little less bridal looking? I'm not Polish, so not sure there and its difficult to say without seeing it, but can you ask the bride, perhaps show it to her?

[Shhhh]

I don't understand about not wearing white to a wedding.. of course the bride will stand out, she is the one getting married after all !

If you want to wear white then go for it, I can honestly say I wouldn't have minded what colour people wore to my wedding.

I went to a wedding recently and out of the guests 4 of us wore white/cream. We didn't look like the bride, noone mistook us for the bride.

IMO the bride can usually be spotted as the one marrying the groom (what about blokes in suits.. noone allowed to wear a suit incase the get mixed up with the groom OR takes the grooms thunder..?) carring the flowers, with the bridesmaids you get what im saying .

Anyway, not all brides wear white.......

IMO,wear what you want to an what you feel comfortable in.

[PollyRoxs]

I am getting married later this year in a dress which is between and pink and purple colour. I am now very worried that my sil has bought a similar coloured dress. This colour was in all the shops this year, I had ordered my dress last October so didnt give it a second thought. My dress is very bridal so am hoping that it will be different enough for neither of us to feel uncomfortable.
I really don't want to say anything to sil, do you think that is the right thing to do?

[Karbea]

Wedding etiquette don't you love it!
Floandjo - pick something else, wear that dress to another summer event, I don't know about polish weddings, but I've been to a few german ones and they didn't wear the same sort of bright colours that we tend to.

Polly - no you shouldn't say anything to her, that isn't good manners, you could tell her the colours you are wearing, and say you are concerned as it's not White/ivory that maybe people will wear similar colours, but don't tell her what to wear.

[plinkduet]

I have been to a Polish wedding. They're conservative people ; your dress sounds ideal. Just make sure you can sing your hymns off by heart ;)

[StopRainingPlease]

"I don't understand about not wearing white to a wedding.. of course the bride will stand out, she is the one getting married after all hmm !"

White draws the eye. Have a look at some wedding photos, and you'll see what I mean. Or have a look at Wouwerman's white horses.